The Feelings State of “Why”

Start with WHY

Remember that scene in The Notebook where Noah yells at Allie “WHAT DO YOU WANT?”

I repeated that over and over in my brain to myself…

One thing I’m learning in my work as a coach is that few people know what they want, really.

We think we know – but it’s based on comments and impressions from others.

When we base our wants or desires on other’s opinions, it fizzles.

I’m one month into the Limitless program and can’t get over assignment #1: Define your “why”.   It had been several weeks into the program and I still didn’t know how to answer this prompt. And to be quite honest, I felt like I tripped over the starting line: anxious, losing sleep, wasting time and money, getting left behind.

I brought it to a Mindset Coaching session.

My coach asked: “What lights you up? When do you lose track of time?”

My response: “When I am creating anything and when I am connecting with others.”

She says, “Go with it.”

My response: “But is it specific enough?”

We looked at the feeling that creating and connecting stirs within me. I could feel it like a Radiating Light. The feeling was clear, the place it is leading me was not.

In my interview with Michael Kitces, I alluded to this with the statement “Every decision paves the way for the next level of clarity that I have”. He asked me about leaning the ladder against the wrong wall. For some of us, clarity is a feeling - an Alignment, a knowing - trusting that having the details of the outcome in advance is less important than being true to our joy on the journey.

For me - when I follow the feeling of Radiating Light - I continue to make more space for it because it is an exhilarating feeling. When I am present to it, I am clear on the next step in my business (system, process, protocol, hire) that gets more of it.

And here’s the real secret: I’m learning so much about myself these days as I let the mystery of “create” and “connect” unfold. It’s a giddy exploration!

What lights you up? When do you lose track of time?

More of that please,

💛 Liz

p.s. Did you know your motivation is actually tied to the feelings state of your why? Humans make decisions emotionally and justify them logically. So before you cast out this “feelings state stuff” as ridiculous, remember that momentum is tied to excitement. If you’re not excited about your “WHY”, its not for you.